I will try to keep this brief, it's hard to do though.

On Tueday May 18th it was my anniversary, 20 years, I lived with him 5 years before that, we met at 18, all seemed perfect. When he got ill, I worried and when the diagnosis, at 42, was terminal cancer, I was devastated. It took a year to watch him die, and in that time he would not allow any medical intervention beyond pain relief, I gave up work to care for him, because he asked me to, alone with no help or support, and because I loved him. His illness took a horrific toll on myself and my children, it was horrific in all respects, visually, the open tumours all over him, mentally, he was dying in front of us, and of course, physically, for me, being Mum and Dad and nurse to him.

He died March 9th, never wavering from telling us how much he l9ved us, how special and perfect our marriage was.

About 20 mins after he died I discovered he had not just been having an affair with another woman but also was playing Dad to her child. Weeks after that I discovered he'd been stealing money to take her out, pay her bills and so forth, in fact, some 24 thousand pounds in the last 2 years.


This woman was going to come to the funeral, and her child, all the time lying to me, telling me I was wrong.

I wasn't, he was a police officer and the police found the truth an affair to his last breath.


His sister wrote to her asking what went on.

A cousin of mine visited her to ask, his police colleagues.

Finally when I was at my lowest ebb, I confronted her, she was in her car and drove off without a word.


Drove past the police station and I saw her car and went in because frankly, no more police officers were traumatising my children.

I can't tell you how low, ill, confused and destroyed I was, my children were. The weekend before his treatment started he said he was working, he'd be late, his last shift, he left us here and went to the seaside with her and her child. My children would have loved time with their father. This past xmas day he argued with my little girl and stormed out of the house, I made excuses, he was ill, stressed, in fact he was at her house, all afternoon, delivering gifts to his secret family, he was seen. My children ask me what was wrong with them that he spoiled their last xmas with him to be with this woman and her child.

All we ever did was love him and trust him.

My daughter used to have nightmares about his death, he died in front of her, now she has them about her daddy fit and well leaving her for another little girl.

I don't know what I was going to say to her in that car park hadI had the chance, I do know her first words at the police station were "Give me what he left me in his will" after all he'd taken from us to give her. I argued with her, no threats no violence, me standing up for my children.

I was arrested, they took her word over mine arrested me for harrassment. EVERY officer I encountered made it clear they wanted nothing to do with it, it was wrong, but it was imposed from above. One told me he was ashamed.

The CPS wanted nothing to do with it, no charges, nothing.

As a teacher I cannot work without a clear CRB, I did nothing wrong, nothing. The CPS, my local MP and the police officers agreed. There is now an inquiry going on.

I feel I need to make a complaint against them though, wrongful arrest. How do I go about this?

Also, can I get an injunction or anything else to prevent this woman from making unfounded complaints about me? From doing this to me again? I feel afraid to leave my house to be honest, even been advised by my lawyer to take a witness with me to certain places near her home or work.

WHY? I did NOTHING WRONG, she did, I didn't.

How can I legally protect myself from being arrested on the whim of the woman who soent my money and had an affair with my husband?

Hi. firstly I feel for you and your children, you may not like this, but because your cousin went to the police station, his sister writting a letter and you going into the police station after trying to spaek to her in her car, this was why you was arrested for harrassment, although not charged. It was not just her fault, it takes two to tango. Try to stay away from her and do not give her a reason to complain about anything, they will pull ranks if they have to. Is there anything in the will about her?

Not a thing. I have no control over other people, I was so deep in my own grief and shock, I had nothing to do with it. The CPS pointed this out, as did my MP and the Brass she saw agreed totally. There was absolutely no reason to arrest me. It almost pushed me to suicide.

May I ask why, in my small town I should have to live in fear of her?




I should add, my cousin didn't go to the Police Station, my sentence was off there, I meant my cousin asked her to at least tell the truth, and so did several of his police colleagues, the police themselves asked her, as friends of his, not officially, but there was an enquiry, he misused his position to start a relationship with her she claimed, so they investigated.

Hi, sorry for getting the cousin bit wrong, if there is an ongoing inquiry, it might be best to wait until you find out the result of that inquiry before you decide on what to do next. You and your children are the victims in this, do not loose sight of that, it seems like it is common knowledge at her work place of what went on and so will not be easy for her to trump up a charge as it will be obvious what is happening.